I was waiting at the bus stop to pick up my foster son Darius when the little girl sitting alone on the bench looked up at me and said, “Are you waiting for someone who FORGOT about you too?”
She couldn’t have been more than seven.
I’ve had Darius with me for fourteen months, and in that time I’ve learned what a kid looks like when they’ve been waiting too long – not just at a bus stop, but in the system, in a house, in their own life. This girl had that look.
Her name was Zoe. She told me that like it was a fact she’d been asked to prove before.
I sat down next to her and asked where her grown-up was.
“My foster lady said she’d be here at three,” Zoe said. “It’s almost five.”
My stomach dropped.
I called the county line. They put me on hold for eleven minutes. When someone finally picked up, they said Zoe’s placement worker was “unavailable” and they’d send a message.
A message.
I stayed. Darius’s bus came and he climbed off and saw her and didn’t ask any questions, just sat on her other side like it was the most natural thing.
An hour later, a woman in a county car pulled up. No apology. She looked at her clipboard, then at Zoe. “You’re not supposed to talk to strangers,” she said.
Zoe didn’t answer.
The woman looked at me. “We’ve got it handled.”
She said it the way people say it when they mean STOP LOOKING.
I took out my phone and got the woman’s name off her lanyard while she was buckling Zoe in.
That night I called every number I had – the placement office, the licensing board, a caseworker I’d met at a training two years ago named Brenda Holt.
Brenda picked up on the second ring.
She went quiet when I told her Zoe’s name.
Then she said, “Deb, that little girl has been in four homes in eight months. I’ve been trying to flag her case for weeks, but someone keeps CLOSING THE TICKET.”
She paused.
“I think I know why. But you’re not going to like it.”
What Brenda Knew
I stood in my kitchen holding the phone with both hands. Darius was in the next room watching something with the volume low, the way he does when he knows I’m on a call that matters.
Brenda took a breath.
She said the woman from the county car – the one with the clipboard and the lanyard – her name was Carol Peggs. And Carol Peggs was not Zoe’s placement worker. Zoe’s actual placement worker had been out on medical leave since October. Carol was covering a caseload of thirty-one kids with no supervisor sign-off on reassignments.
Thirty-one.
“So when I flag Zoe’s file,” Brenda said, “the ticket goes to Carol. And Carol closes it. Not because she’s malicious, Deb. Because she’s drowning and Zoe isn’t bleeding.”
That last part sat in the air between us.
“Where is Zoe tonight?” I asked.
Brenda didn’t know. She said the placement on file was a woman named Pat Gunderson out in Millbrook, but Pat had called the office two weeks ago saying she needed a respite break and no one had followed up on whether that was ever arranged.
So Zoe might be at Pat’s. Or she might be somewhere else entirely. The file hadn’t been updated.
“Brenda,” I said. “It’s nine-thirty at night.”
“I know.”
“Does anyone know where this child is sleeping right now?”
Long pause.
“I’m going to make some calls,” she said.
The Part I Didn’t Expect
I didn’t sleep. I sat at my kitchen table with a legal pad and wrote down everything I remembered: the time I arrived at the bus stop, the time Darius’s bus came, the time the county car pulled up, Carol Peggs, lanyard, no apology, clipboard. The exact words Zoe said. Are you waiting for someone who forgot about you too.
I wrote that one down twice.
At 11:14 Brenda called back. Zoe was at Pat’s. Pat confirmed she was there, confirmed she was fine, confirmed she’d dropped Zoe at that bus stop herself because she had a doctor’s appointment and assumed the pickup was arranged.
It wasn’t.
Nobody had arranged it. The bus stop was two miles from Pat’s house. Zoe had been sitting there since three o’clock because she’d been told someone was coming and she believed it, the way kids believe things even after they’ve been given every reason to stop.
I asked Brenda what happened next. Procedurally.
She said she’d file an incident report in the morning. She said Carol would probably get a conversation with her supervisor. She said Zoe’s case would get a formal review, eventually, once the review queue cleared.
I asked how long the review queue was.
She said, “Don’t ask me that tonight, Deb.”
So I didn’t.
What Darius Said
He was awake when I went to check on him. Sitting up in bed with the lamp on, reading the same book he’d been reading for three weeks. He’s twelve and he reads slow and deliberate, like he’s making sure each page is real before he turns it.
“Is she okay?” he asked.
I told him she was home safe.
He nodded. Then: “She’s been waiting a long time. You could tell.”
I asked him what he meant.
He thought about it. “Like she wasn’t surprised,” he said. “When the lady came and didn’t say sorry. She wasn’t surprised.”
He turned back to his book.
I stood in his doorway for a second. I didn’t say anything. There wasn’t anything to say that he didn’t already know from the inside of his own chest.
The Name on the Lanyard
The next morning I called the licensing board. Not to report Carol – not yet. I wanted to understand the structure first. Who supervised Carol. Who supervised that person. Whether there was a formal process for flagging a child whose case was being administratively lost.
The woman I spoke to was named Gail, and she was helpful in the way that people are helpful when they’re reading from a script. She gave me a form number. She told me to submit in writing. She said response time was six to eight weeks.
I said, “This child is seven years old and she sat alone at a bus stop for two hours.”
Gail said, “I understand your concern.”
I hung up and called a woman named Roxanne Pruitt instead. I’d met Roxanne at a foster parent advocacy meeting eighteen months ago. She’d been a foster parent for eleven years, had three kids adopted out of her home, and she kept a spreadsheet of every caseworker, supervisor, and board member in the county with their direct lines and their bosses’ direct lines.
She answered on the first ring.
I told her about Zoe. About Carol. About the closed tickets and the thirty-one-kid caseload and the review queue and Gail with her form number.
Roxanne said, “Spell the last name on the lanyard.”
I spelled it.
She said, “Okay. Give me twenty-four hours.”
What Twenty-Four Hours Looked Like
Roxanne called three other foster parents she trusted. One of them, a retired teacher named Frank Kowalski who’d been fostering for fifteen years, had filed a complaint against Carol Peggs four months ago after a similar situation with a different child. That complaint had been received, logged, and assigned to a review queue.
The same review queue.
Frank still had the case number. He gave it to Roxanne, who gave it to a contact she had at the state level – not a friend exactly, more like someone who owed her a conversation. That contact looked up the queue.
There were forty-seven open complaints sitting in it. Oldest one was fourteen months old.
Roxanne called me back and read me that number like she was reading a verdict.
Forty-seven.
“This isn’t Carol,” she said. “Carol is a symptom. The office is understaffed by at least four positions and they’ve been submitting budget requests for two years and the county keeps deferring.”
She paused.
“The kids don’t defer.”
I wrote that down too.
What I Did With It
I’m not a journalist. I’m not a lawyer. I’m a forty-three-year-old woman who works in accounts receivable and fosters one kid at a time because it’s what I can manage without losing my mind.
But I know how to document. I know how to write a letter that doesn’t sound crazy. And I know that Zoe’s face at that bus stop – not scared, not crying, just waiting, like waiting was the thing she’d learned to be best at – was not something I was willing to file away.
I wrote a formal letter to the county board. I attached Frank’s complaint number and the state queue data Roxanne had pulled. I cc’d the licensing board, the state child welfare office, and the local paper’s city desk. Not because I expected the paper to run anything. Just because cc’ing them sometimes makes the other recipients move faster.
Brenda helped me get Zoe’s case flagged for emergency review. That part took four days and three phone calls and Brenda calling in something she described as “a favor I’ve been saving.”
The review happened.
I don’t know everything that came out of it. I’m not Zoe’s caseworker and I’m not her foster parent and there are limits to what I get to know. But Brenda told me two weeks later that Zoe had been moved to a new placement. A woman named Donna, who’d been on the waiting list for a placement for six months and had a dog and a fenced yard and had specifically requested a younger child.
Brenda said Zoe asked if the dog was friendly.
Brenda said Donna told her the dog was extremely friendly and also a little dumb.
Brenda said Zoe laughed.
What’s Still Sitting With Me
The county board sent a response to my letter thirty-two days later. They acknowledged the staffing concerns. They said they were “committed to continuous improvement in case management practices.” They said the budget request had been resubmitted for the next fiscal cycle.
I framed it. Not really. But I thought about it.
Carol Peggs is still working. I don’t know if that’s right or wrong. She’s one person trying to hold together thirty-one kids’ lives with no backup and no resources and a system that treats the review queue like a waiting room where nothing bad can happen because it’s technically being handled.
Darius asked me once, early on, whether I was going to keep him.
I said yes.
He nodded like he was filing it away for later, to check against what actually happened.
I think about Zoe doing the same thing with Donna. Storing the yes somewhere careful, not quite trusting it yet, waiting to see if it holds.
That’s what two hours at a bus stop does. That’s what four homes in eight months does. Not broken. Not beyond anything. Just waiting, very carefully, to find out if the thing they were promised is actually going to show up.
Darius is asleep down the hall right now. He’s been here fourteen months and he still sleeps with the lamp on.
I don’t say anything about it.
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For more unexpected encounters that pull at the heartstrings, read about My Niece Who Asked to Sleep at My House Because of Mommy’s Boyfriend or the time My Niece Knocked on My Car Window and Said Four Words That Changed Everything. You might also be intrigued by The Biker Crouching Next to My Student Who Knew My Name Before I Said a Word.
